For most people it is sometimes better to make love without the penis entering the vagina. This may be because the girl is having her period. Especially on the first day or days the bleeding may be so heavy that she prefers to keep her panties and a sanitary towel on or a tampon in. (When the bleeding is only light, sexual intercourse is quite possible and enjoyable, also because the risk of pregnancy is very small.)
Another reason for abstaining from intercourse (or ‘coitus’ as it is also called) is to avoid pregnancy. Fertilization is possible during 5 days every month, before and at the time of the girl’s ovulation, which is about midway between menstruations.
So to avoid pregnancy it is necessary to avoid coitus during those unsafe days.You may also wish to avoid an infection, or irritation if one of the partners has an irritated skin or experiences pain during intercourse.
Also, it is a very good idea for people who have just met not to go all the way immediately. There’s a lot of enjoyment in getting used to each other step by step. So this is the best approach for the inexperienced, and not a bad thing even for the experienced when they are new to each other.
Another reason for abstaining from intercourse (or ‘coitus’ as it is also called) is to avoid pregnancy. Fertilization is possible during 5 days every month, before and at the time of the girl’s ovulation, which is about midway between menstruations.
So to avoid pregnancy it is necessary to avoid coitus during those unsafe days.You may also wish to avoid an infection, or irritation if one of the partners has an irritated skin or experiences pain during intercourse.
Also, it is a very good idea for people who have just met not to go all the way immediately. There’s a lot of enjoyment in getting used to each other step by step. So this is the best approach for the inexperienced, and not a bad thing even for the experienced when they are new to each other.
Finally, people with sexual problems are always advised to avoid intercourse for some time. They have to re-learn making love.
- The first stage of sexual attraction is looking at someone, noticing their general appearance (race, age, shape), and their face in particular (lips and eyes), then hearing their voice, noticing how they smile or toss their hair. Some people are attractive to almost everyone, some are the opposite.
Most people are between these extremes, so there will be a pretty good chance - when they are young - to meet possible sexual partners. It’s sexual desire that makes us go out in search of someone to love. Let’s suppose two people have met and feel attracted to each other.
- Touching is usually the beginning of sexual excitement and intimacy. Every part of us is sensitive to touch, and the feeling we get depends very much on the relationship. If someone is a relative stranger and we are touched for the first time, our sexual excitement is very strong, stronger than when someone is familiar to us.
The touch of a hand against a hand, the caressing of a face, the lips close to the ear, the movement of a hand over your leg, the soft tickling of a thigh or the massage of neck and shoulders, they can all be exquisite and arousing, so that the heart beats faster, and a feeling of warmth runs through us.
- Kissing is the next stage. Our mouths are especially sensitive and the deep kiss, where the mouth opens and the tongues can play together, is usually at the centre of petting. While we kiss, our hands hold the partner and explore their hair and face, back and front. Kissing is important.
Do it gently and cautiously and playfully at first. Open your eyes, at least occasionally and say that you like it (if you do). Do not slobber or crush and if the other does, teach them. Don’t forget, kissing is not taught in any school and in very few homes, so most people have to go by intuition. Some really do not know how to kiss, and they have to be instructed.
