Great sex without intercourse step:

Touching

Touching the breasts, or other parts that are usually covered, like the abdomen and the buttocks, is the following stage. Again it is important to be gentle and exploratory, not hasty or clumsy.

It may look exciting to see people in movies lose their head completely in a frenzy of passion, but reality is different (by the way, such movie scenes show how little moviemakers know about these things). Always be aware and enjoy what you are doing.

Giving an orgasm

Finally - and this may come after many sessions of enjoyable kissing and petting - you can give the other an orgasm (make him or her come) by touching and stimulating the genitals.

If you are agreed that you don’t need sexual intercourse yet, this is a perfect way to have wonderful sex without any worry about pregnancy or infection.

Masturbating a boy

You can make a boy come with your hand. The first time you hold a penis is very exciting, maybe a little frightening too. But remember, he is very sensitive and vulnerable, so be very gentle and careful.

Don’t start pulling the foreskin back immediately, but just hold it softly, move your fingers a little bit, look at it if you can. The penis is probably already hard and big the first time you touch it, because the boy has become aroused as a result of the kissing and caressing that you have already done.

And if the boy is very excited he takes only a very short time to have an orgasm. His semen will squirt out in three or four small gusts, so be prepared for that. It is a good idea to have some tissues or a handkerchief ready to catch the semen or wipe it away. It is very natural stuff, like the white of an egg, so if it stains clothes or sheets or upholstery, it cleans away easily with some warm water.

Masturbating a girl

You can masturbate a girl by moving your fingers very gently at first across her slit. It is probably be wet from the kissing and petting, otherwise you must wet your finger with saliva. The most sensitive spot is the girl’s clitoris and the area around it.

You must be careful about rubbing it too hard or quickly. Only when you feel that she is getting aroused, can you increase the rhythm of your stroking until she comes. Many girls find it not so easy to have an orgasm this way. They have their own particular technique when they masturbate and it is very difficult for another person to know that without asking.

You can also make her come by kissing and licking her slit. Again it is important to do this very gently at first and show that you enjoy it. She can let you know if you’re doing it right. Of course this oral sex is only safe if you know you cannot be infected.

All in all, you can have great sex without sexual intercourse. This non-penetrative sex is a wonderful way to get to know each other and talk about what you like, or discuss and solve any problem that comes along.

Finally, people with sexual problems are always advised to avoid intercourse for some time. They have to re-learn making love.

• The first stage of sexual attraction is looking at someone, noticing their general appearance (race, age, shape), and their face in particular (lips and eyes), then hearing their voice, noticing how they smile or toss their hair. Some people are attractive to almost everyone, some are the opposite. 

Most people are between these extremes, so there will be a pretty good chance - when they are young - to meet possible sexual partners. It’s sexual desire that makes us go out in search of someone to love. Let’s suppose two people have met and feel attracted to each other.

• Touching is usually the beginning of sexual excitement and intimacy. Every part of us is sensitive to touch, and the feeling we get depends very much on the relationship. If someone is a relative stranger and we are touched for the first time, our sexual excitement is very strong, stronger than when someone is familiar to us. 

The touch of a hand against a hand, the caressing of a face, the lips close to the ear, the movement of a hand over your leg, the soft tickling of a thigh or the massage of neck and shoulders, they can all be exquisite and arousing, so that the heart beats faster, and a feeling of warmth runs through us.
 

• Kissing is the next stage. Our mouths are especially sensitive and the deep kiss, where the mouth opens and the tongues can play together, is usually at the centre of petting. While we kiss, our hands hold the partner and explore their hair and face, back and front. Kissing is important. 

Do it gently and cautiously and playfully at first. Open your eyes, at least occasionally and say that you like it (if you do). Do not slobber or crush and if the other does, teach them. Don’t forget, kissing is not taught in any school and in very few homes, so most people have to go by intuition. Some really do not know how to kiss, and they have to be instructed.

In oral sex, irrumatio is performed by actively thrusting the penis into the mouth of the partner. In slang, this act is called face fucking, throat fucking and skull fucking.

As with fellatio, it may be performed to induce male orgasm and ejaculation of semen. The passive partner may simultaneously be induced to climax if so desired. It can also be used as foreplay prior to vaginal or anal forms of intercourse.

However, the passive partner might experience certain difficulties compared to less-aggressive fellatio, such as feeling as if they are abused, boredom, uncomforting reflexes, coughing up saliva, vomiting, being unable to breathe, etc.

One method for the passive partner to overcome such difficulties is using the so-called stopper technique by wrapping one hand around the lower shaft of the penis thus being able to control its movement. Irrumatio can take place in a variety of positions.

Possible positions:
The passive partner with the back on the bed with the head tilted over the edge or the passive partner kneeling in front of the active partner.
Fellatio and irrumatio can be used interchangeably during oral sex. Indeed the distinction between fellatio and irrumatio has vanished in modern English and the latter term has fallen out of widespread use.

According to Maggie Paley's argument in her work, The Book of the Penis, some receivers regard receiving oral sex as an ego boost, believing that such an act is a form of dominance over their sexual partner because of the overt submissive nature of the act; the giver may often be on their knees before the receiver to perform the act of pleasure.

As the Roman conception of the act also indicates, this is more so for irrumatio than fellatio in oral sex, as the male partner is dominant in action and the act of deep throating is easier.