The kiss is the single most intimate display of affection. The kiss is the key that opens the door to both her heart, and her body. It has been found that most women based their decision of whether they would sleep with a man, on his kissing abilities.

Most men if given a chance to kiss a woman thinks while kissing that when can we get to step two? And three and four? Is she aroused yet? Can I put my hand on her breast now?

A man sees kissing as the next step on a quest. Many men take kissing as a step to get down to the good stuff. As a result, they rush through the kissing and do not get to fully enjoy the delightfulness of a long, passionate, kiss.

Actually the kiss is not a step, it is the the destination itself. A man kisses a woman like he will never do anything else with this woman, as if he never wants to do anything else with this woman. But this is when the woman decides there will be other activities on the agenda.

You want to be a great kisser? Then keep it simple and sexy. Forget about impressing her with that heavenly kiss. Instead, indulge yourself in a simple, sexy and intimate kiss. Rid your mind of any kissing performance thoughts, and instead, realize that she's opening the door to her soul and body. Enjoy the moment!

If eyes tell the sectrets of a person, then lips are the informers of our consciousness. Our lips respond to happy thoughts by smiling, they express our deepest emotions with words of love and hope ,and kissing is the only way to say something that words can't.

A first kiss!! It should always be done while the two of you are alone.(Do I need to tell that?)

This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations.The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations...such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip...

And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss the whole face. This can be very seductive and romantic.

Kissing is an art form. The kissing experience is different for each of us.The first step to kissing is known as finding her comfort level. Make sure she is ready for a kiss and do not start anything until she is comfortable.

The best kisses are those that are memorable, but leave you pantingly wanting more. The language of a kiss is communication without words. At various times you want to communicate attraction, affection, love, passion, lust, and I'll miss you, baby. Pay attention to what your mate responds to, and what seems to turn him or her off, then adjust your techniques accordingly.

While kissing keep your lips slightly parted when your lips meet, and press gently against his/her lips. A slight angle at one side to your head will assist you for not getting your noses in the way. What do you do next?

It depends. If it's just a little kiss, a peck on the lips, move away but (this is very important) don't move away all of a sudden, as if you were disgusted by his/her kiss! Just move away slowly, maybe while still holding hands, and looking in his/her eyes.

Kissing is not limited to lips. Don't only kiss the lips. Kiss all the parts of the face. Kiss his/her eyes, cheeks, forehead, neck, and hands. Remember ‘he’ must watch out that ‘she’ is comfortable. Then she will be more relaxed, and will appreciate your kiss if it's sincere. Beware! She'll definitely notice if it's fake. Finally, imagination is all yours.

Something about breathe. If you want to ruin a perfect kiss then bad breath is your best possible solution. Now no need to say that you should avoid spicy foods, garlic and onions just before. If you want to eat then another solution is make sure you're both eating spicy food, so neither will notice.

Before going out on your date, make sure you brush your teeth. Mint also can help you. If you are going to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Slightly moist lips are also good. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Smoking: Take my word! Non-smokers simply hate kissing a smoker! You might be tense, but don't snigger during or after you kiss. The other person won't understand it's nervous laughter. He or she will think that you were laughing at him/her!

Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Now something for eyes. Keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss.

Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. It is considered, as guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.

Something for the climax! Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breathe through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

If it is your first time then to make it a great first time kiss or if you are nervous you can kiss with closed lips. This is something like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss.

Hands also play an important role in a great kiss. There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner's waist and the other one against the middle of their back.

One of very romantic ways is to use your hands to cup your partner's face in your hands. You can put them around your partner's neck or put them around their waist. You can also hold your partner's upper or lower arms gently, run your finger's through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

Finally the main weapon, the LIPS. Keep your lips soft and gentle. Also you can think of kissing something very tender while kissing. Practice is very important. Now where to practice? You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going.

When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his/her, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his/her match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.

There are many kisses that one could think of. And all of them meant different things to different people. Let’s have a look at these types of kisses with kissing positions and techniques.


Angel Kiss
This is a sweet, comforting kiss. You could practice this by gently and ever so lightly kiss your partner either on the eyelid or right next to the eyes. Most effective for girls of all ages!

Cheek Kiss
A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often this is the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

Butterfly Kiss
With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.

Freeze Kiss
Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It's an erotic and sensual French kiss with a twist of cold.

Eskimo Kiss
With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together. I found this one to be really funny!

Earlobe Kiss
Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors. The se could be really enticing!

French Kiss
French kissing involves the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues.

Forehead Kiss
The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.

Foot Kiss
An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

Hickey Kiss
The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay.

Hand Kiss
Gently raise her hand to your lips. Lightly brush your lips across the top of her hand.
Historically this kiss was performed with a bow, which showed deference to a lady.

Hot / Cold Kiss
Get a cold drink and put some in your mouth. Have your partner gets a hot drink and puts some in their mouth. You then French kiss leaving a sensational feeling.

Letter Kiss
Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by writing the letter x several times in a row at the bottom of a letter such as xxxx.

Mistletoe Kiss
Surprise your lover by capturing them with a gentle holiday kiss under the mistletoe.
This is also a good method for shyer individuals to steal a kiss from a potential lover.

Neck Kiss
Come up behind the person you want to kiss. Lightly lick the back of their neck, then kiss the back of their neck a few times.

Sexually, guys take the act of kissing grossly for granted. They forget that the mouth can get quite inviting and can be used for a multitude of reasons. More often than not men take it that if a woman has to smooch him tightly, she means that she would instantly like to go to bed with him.

Even amongst teenagers, guys generally take it that to get a woman agree to his whims and fancies, he needs to get extremely closer to her mouth, it is only then can he get his hands all over her.


But then there are those unfortunate people who are truly bad kissers and possibly to make up for their lack of kissing prowess that they take sex too seriously. Probably a case of the sub-conscious playing on! Many men and women when questioned came along with much the same answers, that they’ve yet to master the art of kissing. There are several kinds of kisses I gather.

Some soft, others intimate, some called butterfly kisses and others wet and deep. The way to kiss a person is probably the last thing that parents might teach their children, so peers have to either learn it from the movies or from their friend’s circle. And we all know that half knowledge is dangerous, and even more so if its not been experimented upon.

Talking about the kinds of kisses in general, its interesting that sans words, kisses can mean a lot, of course where you might get kissed is quite a different story altogether.

Types of Kisses
We’ll start with the ordinary cute small kiss, that you might have received from your mom, while tucking you in bed. Then comes the teary kiss, during emotional moments, that’s slightly longer than the peck you received last night. Followed by which is the nervy kiss for first time lovers.

The French kiss I am sure needs no introduction, the wet and messy entangling of feelings that mean that there’s more to the story than just lip locking.

Close to the heels of this type of kiss is the cannibalistic kiss, the one with bruises, or love bites as it were. These are kisses with a deliberate action of hurting, oops, sorry bruising your loved one, leaving what may experience as a slight sweet feeling pain either on the nape of your neck or close to your ear. These are perhaps two of the most famous places, simply because of the network of sensitized veins that can play havoc with your mental faculties.

Another type of the kiss, quite similar to the cannibalistic kiss is the suffocating one. Here of course along with the bruises that are a default package, you also have two people infuriatingly gasping for breath! Of course this sort of a kiss can be rather suffocating, and a bit dangerous like the French kiss with the saliva passing on any type of infection to the other including the HIV.

The suffocating kiss as I would term it, has three phases. (You may seek to disagree but I guess I could not have broken up this into a more explicit description!) One is the inquisitive phase where you are trying to search for places within each other’s mouth for an enhanced feeling of ecstasy.

The second is the overpowering, emotional and pacing kisses almost not letting the other one breathe, and the third phase releases the grasp as it were, and easing the breath of each other, yet prolonging the action into a great, wet and intoxicating kiss! Phew! I said it at last! I really wish I could give you a better description, but then this is the best what I could manage. Go ahead, indulge…. Make love not war!

1. I don't want to talk about it. I want to figure it out.

2. When you ask me what's on my mind and I say "nothing," I really mean nothing.

3. I'd appreciate it if you left the bathroom door closed while you wee. Yes, we're comfortable around each other, but do we need to be that comfortable?

4. Brazilian wax. Me like.

5. I will deny this to the death in front of my friends, but I love it when you grab my hand while we're queuing at the movies.

6. I know when you're faking it.

7. I like it when other men check you out, but not the other way around.
Yes, this is a double standard.

8. Never utter the words "penis" and "cute" in the same sentence. Even if the penis in question is not mine.

9. I want kids, but I have no interest in not being the single most important thing in your life. Tell me: do you think this is going to be problematic?

10. I worry about our finances about 30 times a day - so there's no need to keep reminding me.

11. Don't expect me to sing along with you in the car. It's not, um, manly.

12. I like a girl who drinks beer out of the bottle.

13. I love the occasional "I WANT YOU" text message. Send me one - right now.

14. Would it kill you to wear something with pockets? I don't want to carry around your lipstick and wallet all night long.

15. I thoroughly enjoy watching large men stand in a ring and beat the tattoos off each other. Fighting with you? Not so keen on that.

16. A holiday with your parents is about as enjoyable for me as... never mind, you know this one already.

17. Can we please give our children normal names? Apple is not a name. It's a fruit.

18. If you allow me to be my endearingly odd, occasionally twisted self around you, I'll always be there.

19. It's really refreshing when you can laugh at yourself. It also means that you're not laughing at me.

20. Your bum looks fine in those jeans. And even if it didn't, you wouldn't hear it from me.

Well, almost anything (bestiality and experimentation with power tools are two no-nos that spring to mind). "New ideas and information are the lifeblood to keeping a long-term sexual relationship thriving. "Ask yourself questions about what you want to do differently: do you want it dirtier, sweeter, kinkier, more passionate, more often?


Grab a pen, some paper and your partner, and each write down six things you've always dreamt of trying - straddling him in your f**k-me boots for example - and put them in a jar beside your bed. If you both write big and little thrills, you can start off dipping your toe in the water so it's not a huge leap from missionary on Wednesday night to you purring in a Catwoman suit by Saturday. "Don't rush through them, one new practice a month is usually doable for most people.

If you need inspiration, there's a $12 billion-dollar adult entertainment industry out there to inspire an ache between your thighs. Reading erotic fiction is a great shortcut to discovering what gives you a dirty mind. Next time he's on the X-box, spend an hour on wicked words to see what we mean.

And it's a myth that women aren't turned on by visual stimulation: a Stanford University, US, study found that women get massively turned on just two minutes into an erotic flick. Google "porn for women" and you'll see we want a hard-on as much as he does. When you've found something you fancy, write it on a note for the jar, suggesting you play it in the background while he does you from behind (so you can both watch the screen) or re-enact certain positions or ideas from the scene.

Saying the words

Why is it that we can express our need for him to take the garbage out but not what we really want in bed? How do you tell him you want him to dress up like a pirate of the Caribbean? According to sex educator Dr Catherine Hood, timing is everything. "Pick a time when you're both in a good mood, maybe just after you've had sex or on a Saturday morning lie-in. Use ‘I' statements, such as ‘I've always wanted to try tying you to the bed with my scarves', or ‘I would love you to tell me what you're doing to me while you're doing it (AKA talking dirty)'."

Then the focus shifts onto what you want. Using "we" also helps in subtly suggesting new things: "Why don't we have a dirty night in on Thursday? We could try reading out loud from that erotic book I bought..." If you feel nervous about how he may react to your fantasy, reframe it as a dream you had last night. Essentially what you're trying to do is open the lines of communication to find out what you're both really into.

The key to truly satisfying sex is to start asking questions about your partner's fantasies and risqué side. "One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to assume you know everything about your partner's sexuality," says Dr Hood. "I've seen couples who have been together for years and not communicated their true desires, because they're embarrassed or simply assume their partner would never want to try it." Just ask, suggests Dr Morrissey.

"Be upfront about your desires. If there's something you want to experiment with, pick a time and say it. Have an agreement not to shame or belittle each other. If your partner takes the risk of exposing a sexual desire, they are really opening themselves up to you, so treat it with respect."

Get down

You know the drill: kiss, kiss, lick, nibble, tickle, screw. Most of us have the same sex in the same bed at the same time. Fine sometimes, but for the rest of your life? Not so much. A study from the University of Chicago of more than 26,000 men and woman in 29 countries found men the world over are more satisfied with their sex lives than women.

What's going on? "Men are solution focused, they like patterns and certainty and that is the same for sex," Brett McCann from the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists explains. "Which means they're happy to stick with what they know works, especially if they know it leads to orgasm - yours and theirs."

The fact is that better sex leads to more sex, and that's good for both of you. Thigh-shaking sex doesn't just mean him spending more time pleasuring you (though that's one part we dig); you should also make the effort to find new erogenous zones on your partner: lick, suck, kiss and gently bite the inside of his biceps, his wrists, backs of his knees or his arse cheeks.

"Simply trying something new will encourage him to try something new," says McCann. It's win-win, and the chances are, if you could do with a new way to get your rocks off, he probably could too.

General practice

Aussies are having sex 106 times a year, or roughly twice a week, according to the 2006-2007 Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey. And, if you're in a LTR you'll know that "roughly" is the key word here. It's OK to have ebbs and flows, but too little sex just ain't good for you.

For starters, the health benefits of doing it more often are well documented: you'll look four to seven years younger, improve your immune system, decrease your chances of cancer and heart disease, trim your waistline (burning between 630 to 2100 kilojoules per session) and decrease stress.

Plus the sensation of touch can alleviate depression. And putting it back on the agenda can also keep you from Splitsville. "When two partners are confident, adventurous and secure in themselves and each other, in and out of the bedroom, they develop a sense of deep security through trust and communication, so they feel desired and desirable," says Dr Gabrielle Morrissey, sexologist and author of Spicy Sex.

"And when you're both satisfied and happy with your sex life it means you go out into the world lovers and allies. After all, that's what keeps you both hot for each other." So don't kid yourself it's OK to drop the sex ball permanently.

Shake up the routine

There was a time when you were so hot for each other you'd skip Underbelly and do intriguing things with Mars bars. But it's like any routine: do it enough and you'll learn to use shortcuts. "Couples develop a sexual road map to what turns each other on," explains Dr Morrissey. "But sex can get boring when you make love the same way, over and over."

The good news is you don't have to flip your sexual style 180 degrees. Arndt says that even the act of writing a sex diary started up a sex discussion among the couples who participated in research for her book and that was often the thing that fixed the problem. The trick is to maintain the affection and, yes, the groping outside of the bedroom.

"Every sexual activity is as valuable as penetrative sex - foot massages, hair stroking while watching TV, brushing up against each other in the kitchen all work to fire up the libido," says Dr Morrissey.

And that also means shifting sex (and that doesn't mean just shagging) away from the bedroom, as according to Dr Morrissey, doing it in new places means your body is less likely to follow familiar routines. So if you're having early morning sex in a tent on a camping trip, getting bent over the kitchen bench, or he secretly has his hand in your undies at a dinner party, it's hard to follow set bedroom routines.